8 Truths I Had To Accept When I Started Parenting With God

Nobody prepared me for what God was going to require of me when I decided to stop parenting alone and start parenting with Him.

Nobody told me that the moment I invited God into my parenting, He was going to start requiring things of me that had nothing to do with my child and everything to do with me. Nobody warned me that parenting with God meant I was going to have to sit across from my own unhealed places and deal with them — not for my sake, but for his. Nobody told me that the woman I was before I became a mother was going to show up in my parenting whether I invited her or not.

I thought parenting with God meant I was going to get help. And I did. But not the kind I expected. I expected God to help me manage my son. What He did instead was manage me.

The LORD started requiring honesty from me in places I had been performing. He started requiring surrender in places I had been controlling. He started requiring me to examine everything I was taught — everything I was told was just how you raise children — and hold it up against Scripture and ask the hardest question a parent can ask: is this actually true, or is this just familiar?

Those are not always the same answer.

What I discovered on the other side of that question changed how I parent, how I speak to my son, how I discipline him, how I pray over him, and how I understand my role in his life. I am not his source. I am not his authority above all others. I am not the one he is ultimately accountable to.

I am the assignment God gave him first.

And that distinction — between being a mother and being a steward — is where everything changed for me.

These are the 8 truths I had to accept when I stopped parenting alone and started parenting with God. Some of them came gently. Some of them came through correction. All of them were necessary.

1️⃣ The way I was raised is not always the Christian way.

I had to unlearn a lot. Not because my parents were bad people — but because tradition and Scripture are not always the same thing. I had to hold everything I was taught up against the Word and ask: does this actually align? Some of it did. Some of it didn’t. And I had to be honest about which was which.

📖 “Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls.” — Jeremiah 6:16 KJV

2️⃣ Scripture is the truth. Not whatever I feel he needs to know.

My feelings about what my son should do, who he should be, and how he should move are secondary to what the Word says. Full stop. The moment I started leading with my feelings instead of Scripture I was no longer parenting with God. I was just parenting with good intentions. Those are not the same thing.

📖 “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” — 2 Timothy 3:16 KJV

3️⃣ My child does not belong to me.

He was given to me on assignment. I am the steward, not the owner. The moment I started parenting like he was mine to control rather than God’s to develop, I got in the way of what God was trying to do in him. He is not my child. He is God’s child on loan to me. And I will answer for how I stewarded that assignment.

📖 “For this child I prayed; and the LORD hath given him me the petition which I asked of him. Therefore also I have lent him to the LORD; as long as he liveth he shall be lent to the LORD.” — 1 Samuel 1:27-28 KJV

4️⃣ My job is not to raise a good child. My job is to raise a godly one.

Good is a standard the world sets. Godly is a standard Scripture sets. They are not always the same thing and I had to stop confusing them. A good child by the world’s standard can still be completely misaligned with God’s purpose for his life. That is not the goal.

📖 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” — Matthew 6:33 KJV

5️⃣ I cannot give my child what I have not received myself.

I cannot teach him peace I don’t have. I cannot model faith I am not walking in. Parenting with God required me to deal with my own unhealed places first — because my child will inherit what I refuse to address. My healing is part of his inheritance.

📖 “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children.” — Deuteronomy 6:6-7 KJV

6️⃣ Discipline is not punishment. It is discipleship.

The root of the word discipline is disciple. Every correction I give my son is not about consequence — it is about formation. I had to stop disciplining out of frustration and start disciplining out of intention. Am I correcting him to feel better or am I correcting him to form him? Those are two very different things.

📖 “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.” — Proverbs 19:18 KJV

7️⃣ My child is watching everything I do before he hears anything I say.

If I tell him to trust God and he watches me panic — he learns panic. If I tell him to be generous and he watches me hoard — he learns to hoard. I am his first theology lesson whether I intend to be or not. What I live will always preach louder than what I say.

📖 “Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.” — 1 Corinthians 11:1 KJV

8️⃣ Parenting with God means I will sometimes have to get out of God’s way.

There are things God wants to do in my son that require me to step back. To let him feel a consequence. To let God speak to him directly. To trust that the Holy Spirit is also his parent and his covering. I am not his only source. I am just the one God assigned first.

📖 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” — Proverbs 22:6 KJV

Parenting with God is not a method. It is a daily surrender.

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With love and fire,
V.S. Beals
Writer. Watchwoman. Woman of the Word.

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